Odd Human Behavior
Whether we are developing characters for a story or encountering odd behavior in real life, this situation explains the motivation for some theatrical behavior.
Years ago, I interviewed for a job with a guy who kept asking if he could trust me. My response was, "Of course, I am all about integrity!" It was only after I started that I found he did not know how to do the expert work he was hired to do. He threw up clouds of confusing smoke to cover that fact, cheated to produce "good" results, took credit for other people's contributions, and looked for a patsy to blame when the truth eventually came out.
I'd never been so stressed by a job in my life. And yet, I learned much about human behavior that years of psychology coursework could not teach me. This experience turned gears in my mind and pushed buttons on emotions I did not know I had. I deepened.
Today I am reflecting on truths people conceal and the drama they create to avoid being exposed. Perhaps they have a substance abuse, sex addiction, gambling, or compulsive spending problem. Could the person who is in over their head on a job not be able to admit they don't know something because of a childhood experience that taught them failure is unacceptable? There are thousands of possible explanations. We do not need to know precisely what is going on in the heart and mind of another person to understand that beneath the behavior, there is a reason why they act the way they do. And, of course, that reason is likely the result of some kind of trauma.
Is it possible to pause our emotional reaction and lead with curiosity instead?
Perhaps empathy lies in knowing the experience of being the one who is constantly afraid of being exposed is just as bad, if not worse, than those affected but have the freedom to leave the situation.
If you care to share a personal experience, I am interested to hear it.
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