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  • Writer's pictureCatherine Norton

Be Your Own Bouncer

"Watch over your heart with all diligence,

For from it flow the springs of life."

~ Proverbs 4:23

This is a good time of year for a reminder to guard our inner circles. We need to weed out those who drain, hurt, isolate, or try to control us; those who make us feel bad, depleted, hopeless, sick, or sad; and those who encourage unhealthy behavior or otherwise do not have our best interests at heart. It doesn't matter why they act the way they do, who they are, or even if they are family.

Access to our inner circle is a privilege we grant, not an obligation. People who impose themselves tell us with their actions that they do not care about our needs. It's okay to politely decline any social interaction that does not feel good to the heart.

Maintaining firm boundaries allows us to stay healthy and grounded for life's real work. We can't serve our higher purpose if we constantly pour our energy into someone else's black hole.

There is no need to be rude. Just say you aren't up for a visit and slowly pull away. Spend less time. Be busy doing things that fulfill you. Stop going. See if you miss it. Readjust if you do. Allocate the hours of your life however you wish. You can discuss your decision, or not, but the boundary you set is ultimately up to you.

Your life is your club. Be your own bouncer.

Make your holidays happy!


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